Dating a really good friend
When you date strangers, it's so hard to know what their sense of humor is or what they find funny, so often you feel like a total weirdo when a joke doesn't land because he doesn't get it or it's not his thing. It's been like a year of the hottest foreplay of your life. No, you haven't met his family yet but you know what his sister does for work, and if he had a brother who was not that nice to him, and whether or not he had a nice or crappy childhood, all of which allowed you to understand him way more than a guy on Tinder you've spoken to for 60 minutes about sports.9.With your guy though, you're already on the same page with that stuff and everything pretty much always lands (unless you make a series of bad puns that you knew were bad, but you just had to say them. At this point, you've had so many months of near hand-holds and "damn it, I want to kiss you but I won't" moments that the build-up is so much more~*intense*~ than it would've been if you'd waited three freaking dates to kiss. You can tell when he's stressed versus mad versus has a personality disorder.Typically, these are the exact qualities that most people look for in a romantic relationship.
Yeah, he remembers all of that and it scarred his brain and now he will not so much as come close to licking your face ever or being a total dick out of nowhere, don't you worry. You know all about his issues with his ex, so you're not wondering what he likes and doesn't like. You already trust him, which makes you, like, 80 percent less nail-bitingly nervous about everything.You most likely have similar interests, are in the same social circles, enjoy the same hobbies and you already know the other person cares about you.However, can you really see yourself in a long-term relationship with this person?Don’t get me wrong, they are wonderful (there’s a reason we keep each other around, after all, right? They possess many, if not all, of what I’m looking for in a match. Crap.) Part of their motivation revolved around the fact that Timothy and Jessica had both recently found themselves single and, coincidentally, with the opposite relationship problems; her falling too hard and too fast, him, hopping from relationship to relationship, dodging commitment. Meaning that when women and men meet, they inevitably put each other in ‘folders’ or categories. The difference, I’ve seen (and experienced, actually), is that women can change their minds pretty easily.In addition to her private mentoring sessions with clients from all over the world, Aleeza is a passionate speaker and the host of a weekly show.To learn more about her unique style of matchmaking, which focuses on empowerment and developing successful support networks, visit Aleeza is committed to creating marriages that endure the test of time, starting with her own: she is a dedicated wife and loving mother of five children.It’s like ‘When Harry Met Sally’, but in real life – you were just friends with someone for years and years, you knew all their unsavoury habits, you wished you could fancy them but you never did – until one day, you suddenly do, and by some miracle, they like you too. This experiment brings up a lot of questions: were Tim and Jess already attracted to each other when this started (my guess: yes)? Or more personally, should I be taking another look around at my friends of the opposite sex? I’ve long had a theory that women can change their mind more easily towards men than the other way around.Many people think that dating a friend is a bad plan. You don’t have to put on any airs; you can just be who you are. Trust is the foundation of a relationship and it’s one of the hardest things to build. And since you’re friends, you’ve already built up a reserve of trust between yourselves. Coming into a new relationship with trust puts your relationship ahead of the game and sets you up for success. And if you’ve still chosen to be friends, then there’s a good chance you’ve accepted each other’s differences to some degree. It is likely you have developed the kernels of love already. Naturally, it took some time to get past the uncomfortable feelings but our friendship was strong enough to weather the storm.